“Qabool Hai”… A Grand Affair
I went to a family friend's wedding last night when I should have been studying for a physical chemistry exam… the whole thing was really extravagant- an appetizers's balcony with a chef serving all sorts of chat-patty goods, a dhol guy demanding everone's attention as he maked the entrance of the barat, a huge ballroom where the reception took place, the stage all draped in red and gold embroidered cloth held up by gold pillars, women wearing their biggest, most flashiest jewelry sets, dessert tables with an assortment of different cakes, cannolis, kheer, etc… not to mention, the ex-governor of Punjab, Shahbaz Sharif, was their chief guest.
I'm sure it went by all too quick for the bride and the groom and their families. So much time spent planning, spending, anticipating, and it's all over in a matter of hours. I have to admit, i was a bit dazzled by the whole event-ok, ok i was a lot dazzled. They planned a magnificent event for a truly magnificent moment in their lives…the joining of two families through the marriage of the couple.
It gets me wondering whether people invest just as much time and energy into building, maintaining, and integrating relationships across the ever-so-dreaded 'in-law line' as they do for planning just the event of the marriage. I'm sure for some people the line is as big, wide, and black as the NJ Garden State Parkway, and for others it's nearly non-existent. However obvious the line may be, it is one that it inevitably formed by the joining of a man and woman through marriage… how much the couple and the couple's families work to erase that line will significantly determine the extent of happiness of the newly formed household.